The One Word Challenge

How would you describe someone in one word?

It’s a tricky proposition — one I recently put to the test when I asked friends and family which word they’d use to describe me.

The answers I received were as fascinating as they were wide-ranging.

  • Bold
  • Loyal
  • Engaging
  • Generous
  • Welcoming

(For the record, the word I’d use to describe myself is “Driven.”)

Now, I know this sounds like a good spell of ego-baiting. But as someone who equates fishing for complements with fishing with dynamite, I can assure you that is not the purpose of this exercise.

No, the One Word Challenge is as much a deep-thinking exercise than anything else. And it’s more important than we’d prefer to admit.

Why do I say this? Because we live in a world where we take far too much for granted, even though we know we shouldn’t. And in particular, because we fail to recognize the fleeting nature of time and words until they’re taken from us.

This pervasive behavior allows us to live carefree, to enjoy our time with one another free of the foreboding that hangs on our eventual separation. Yet, it inevitably leads to regret at the end. To words left unsaid. To moments left unspent.

The solution to this conundrum is twofold. First, we must make every effort to cherish every moment we spend together. And second, we must refine our methods of taking stock of all we have.

That’s where the One Word Challenge comes in.

You see, we have a tendency to be long winded and eloquent when singing each other’s praises or sharing memories. This trend allows us to connect powerfully through emotion. It’s why we have speeches at weddings, at funerals and after winning awards.

But speeches should not be the only way we size each other up.

We still must be able to distill our relationship with others down to the basics. We must understand on a basic level what draws us to those we hold most dear. We must determine what they bring to us and what we give to them.

And it doesn’t get more basic than one word.

Now, this all might seem like little more than a framing exercise. But it’s much more.

I say the One World Challenge is a bridge.

It allows us to get to a common ground of understanding with those in our inner circle. To be aware of what draws us to each other, what we learn from each other and what we can do with that knowledge.

In an experiential society, this communication can help define our achievements while ensuring we stay true to our core. It can help inspire us to reach for the stars, yet still keep our feet rooted in the ground.

This delicate balance is what moves the world forward, and it’s best expressed in a two-word exchange.

So, go ahead and take the challenge. See how powerful one word can be.

More With Less

I am a huge fan of the TV series Justified. For six seasons, the show brought a potent mix of vibrant characters, dark comedy and dramatic tension to my living room. It also brought this gem of a line into my consciousness.

“Boy, you say 40 words where four will do.”

Nine words of brilliance. Brilliance that cuts deep.

I am a writer. While it might not be the way I make my living per se, putting words on paper is my greatest talent.

Yet this gift comes combo-packaged with the curse of long-windedness. Indeed, I often say more than I need to in my writing; worse still, I become an unconscionable blabbermouth when I spend extended time with family and friends.

I know why this happens. I subconsciously feel the extra words will allow everyone to understand something I previously implied. I often have trouble deciphering implied meanings, so I aim to be an empathetic communicator for all who I can connect with.

But this strategy is foolish. Writing is about forging an emotional connection with your readers. Verbal communication with one’s inner circle is no different. That connection can be powerful when done right, but every extra word or unnecessary thought dilutes its potency, much as water dilutes alcohol.

This is why the most influential communicators have mastered the art of efficiency. Writers from Mark Twain to Seth Godin have imparted wisdom in short phrases, time and again. The impact of their words outweighs the amount of text on the page. The absence of explanation gives the audience something to chew on, making the prose more impactful and memorable.

My goal is to have this impact both with my writing and my verbal communication. So I strive to show restraint, to listen more and to think before speaking, every time.

It’s a challenge, but one that’s critical for me to take on. For if I want to be the best communicator I possibly plan, I must master this manta:

Say more with less.