There’s this thing that Seth Godin does nearly every time he delivers a keynote.
At some point, he’ll ask the everyone in the audience to raise their right hand, as high as they can.
When everyone has complied, he asks the following:
“Now raise it higher.”
Invariably, most of the audience will lift their arm another inch or so in the air. This leads Godin to muse, “Mmm, what’s that about?”
Of course, that’s the point. The exercise serves as visual proof of our propensity to hold a little bit back.
But while Godin goes on to explain how this thinking is a remnant of industrialized society — where we’re taught to leave a bit in reserve in the event someone asks us for more — I think our tentative tendencies go even further.
I think we hold a bit back as a means of self-preservation.
You see, for as much as we idolize those who “go all out,” we’re inherently fearful of the potential dangers that are unlocked by a full effort.
Sure, I could run as fast and as hard as I could, all the time, but then I might blow out my Achilles tendon. And if that happens, how will I get down the stairs? How will I get to work? How will I drive to the supermarket to pick up groceries?
Better to play it safe by holding back.
And this is not just a physical phenomenon. We hold a little back when formulating ideas or supporting causes, all because of the chance we might fail. What we champion might not work or be fully accepted — and if that happens, we better have an exit strategy if we want any chance of saving face.
So yes, holding back is a crucial construct for acceptance and protection. It’s as essential as the governor in a car or the blowout preventer on an oil rig; it shields us from the dangers of flying too close to the sun.
But while there might be valid reasons for avoiding full throttle, must we hold back so much? Protecting ourselves from grave danger is one thing. Insulating ourselves from any sign of disappointment is another.
While we might not like it when things don’t go our way, we must be willing to take some chances. We must summon the courage to give a little more, to devote ourselves something that might not work out.
We shouldn’t be reckless, of course. But we shouldn’t short-circuit our potential on account of our fears either.
After all, life is defined by experiences. And shielding ourselves in a bubble is not living.
So, let’s not permit “What if” block us from exploring “What is.” Let’s open our hearts and our minds to the world.
It’s time to stop holding back.